It's common that nowadays young people have sex even when they're not married and although here in Indonesia that issue is a taboo, that's not stopping people to do what they want. That's life, people decide what are they going to do for themselves. The concern is... what if they choose to not use condoms? That can be way too risky.
What I'm trying to say is: don't risk your life for something that you can't even imagine would happen to you, even when people say "take a risk on your life" I guarantee the 'no condom sex' should not be part of that risk-taking. If you're not ready for something bigger, then have safe sex. Here's my advice: whenever in doubt, use a condom.