Of course, it's up to you to book the actual date, but these ideas will hopefully do most of the planning leg work for you. Read on for our list of non-lame Valentine's Day date ideas.
1. Go sex toy shopping.
Rather than simply using your favorite sex toys on Valentine's Day, take the excitement a step further by visiting your local sex toy shop and splurging on something together. If you're in a new relationship and don't yet own toys you've purchased as a couple, Valentine's Day is the perfect time to do so. Using a sex toy you've picked out together adds an extra element of romance, compared to resorting to that old vibrator you've owned since high school.
For some, visiting a sex toy boutique can be intimidating, but try to remember that this is fun and you can really do no wrong as long as you're following your desires and checking in with your partner to make sure they're on board.
2. Attend a burlesque show.
Not only are burlesque shows erotic, vibrant and classy AF, they're also incredibly inclusive of body diversity, from plus-size dancers to a variety of age ranges. This Valentine's Day, purchase tickets to a burlesque show and support your local dancers while snuggling up to your date in a dimly-lit booth as you're teased and tantalized by an art form that dates back centuries. If you're feeling extra adventurous, purchase a pair of nipple tassels to wear under your going out outfit and surprise your partner with a strip tease once you're back home.
3. Practice seduction magic.
Whereas sex magic is about harnessing sexual energy to produce desired results, sexual or not, seduction magic is all about bringing lovers closer together.
"Seduction magic is about pleasuring, teasing and conquering someone or breaking down your own inhibitions. It incorporates rituals based on the art of tease, the senses and mating rituals," says Cat Cabral, priestess of Wicca and creator of Moonage Magic, a website that provides "practical magic for the modern witch."
A couple of ways to practice seduction magic on a night in include lighting red or pink candles and taking a magic bath with your partner. "Red candles symbolize sexuality, Mars, a virile and powerful energy, whereas pink candles represent traditional feminine qualities of Venus, receptive love," Cabral says.
As a recipe for a magic bath soak, Cabral says roses, jasmine and vanilla are wonderful ingredients to soak in, in herbal format or as essential oils. Single? Fear not. Lighting candles and enjoying a Valentine's Day bath work just as well solo (not to mention, the tub may be comfier). "Valentine's Day should be a manifestation of love and lust, especially for yourself," Cabral says.
4. Spice things up (literally) by cooking something new.
Cooking is sensual by definition, from the smells of spices wafting through your apartment, to the sounds of sizzling veggies in a pan. Plus, reservations can be hard to come by on Valentine's Day, so it's often much more intimate to cook a meal for your partner. For extra oomph, try cooking something new (maybe a dish that potentially has aphrodisiac powers). And for even more oomph, don an apron and nothing else — just be careful if you're cooking with hot chili powder.
5. Worship Mary Jane.
If you and your partner live in a legal state and enjoy marijuana, adding cannabis to your Valentine's Day can heighten the experience (beyond making those boxed chocolates seem extra tasty).
Studies suggest that weed has the potential to heighten sexual pleasure (as of now, the research is promising, but still small in scale). And many people report that weed changes their sex lives for the better. As with everything, though, moderation is key.
"A little goes a long way, because too much weed can leave you lethargic and unfocused," says Molly Peckler, a cannabis-friendly dating coach.
If you're interested in cannabis-enhanced sex without the high (or if you're just not into smoking, vaping, or edibles), try Foria Pleasure, the non-psychoactive coconut oil and cannabis pleasure mist.
6. 6. Throw a dinner party with friends.
Regardless of your relationship status or format, everyone deserves to celebrate love on Valentine's Day, whether you're coupled, single, or poly. Consider swapping out traditional couple-oriented Valentine's Day plans for a dinner party with friends. Everyone can bring a dish (and plenty of wine), which can release the pressure of what can be a very commercial holiday since you're enjoying the company of friends. If you have an adventurous crew, throw it back to your teenage years with a post-dinner game of suck and blow. (Not sure how to play? Maybe it's time to revisit Clueless).
And hey, with the right group of open-minded friends, a Valentine's Day dinner party may seamlessly transition into post dinner group sex.
So, how are you gonna plan your sweet Valentine's Day? You probably want to give one of these ideas a try. Here's some extra advice: always play it safe!